Guess I missed July's Update..... Probably because there isn't much change.
At Tom's request and the encouragement of those that stay in touch with him but don't have to care for him and put up with his behavioral issues which is common and typical of this disease, have backed off on some of his behaviors meds which helped me stay safe and keep him in the realms of our 30 acres. He feels better he says in the fact he is more alert WHEN he does get up and more energy which only puts him back on his 4-wheeler and out of the safety of our home.
I totally understand the people who love Tom don't like to see him in a calm submissive state because it is so out of character from who he was...... BUT what they do NOT get is that he IS NOT who he was....... AT ALL. Not even kind-a.
I know they do not realize they are putting him in danger and me. They make excuses for his behavior not wanting to accept what is but that is not helping him or me.......
Anyway.... here is a little story that took place last evening......
Tom was out bumming around on his 4-wheeler most of the day. He popped in now and then just to take off again to who knows where. I don't.......
I'll take a moment here to respond to those that say I need to make him stay in the yard... do what you have to to keep him off the 4-wheeler.
Well A.... I had that problem solved peacefully with meds. KEY word HAD!
B.... Have you ever tried to stop a train?
C.....Have you ever stirred up a hornets nest?
I'll leave you to ponder that.....
Back to story......
SO..... around 5:00 p.m....... Tom came in the house chuckling. The "old couple" down the road had some guy with a small boat pulling their pontoon boat from their place to the landing close to our place......
He was chuckling because he thought it was going to really funny to sit on the bridge and watch them struggle to get that pontoon boat loaded on the trailer.
Now the "Old Lady for some ? reason does not like Tom. The Old Man is Tom's buddy. The other guy with the small boat is some Good Samaritan who offered to help this Old Couple get their pontoon out of the water.
SO I asked to go watch the ordeal with him. He was happy to have someone along to laugh with him. (NOT MY INTENTION)..... Birds eye view from the bridge.
Soon the little boat came around the corner of the river pulling the pontoon boat into sight. The Old Lady (respectively) was on the pontoon and the Old Man was in the small boat.....
I seen trouble arising as they were nearing the landing.... "Should we go help them?" I asked? "I don't know if we should or not" was his answer. "I think we should... it's what God would want us to do".... I replied.
He responded to that and and drove us down to the landing. They threw Tom the line from the pontoon.... He looked confused but I figured he was okay because he only had to hang on to it.....
I pulled the small boat to shore so the men could get out..... I had to help the Old Man who was not very stead on his feet. I grabbed hold of him to steady him as he was stepping out... teasing him that he was on his own if he fell in the river.
The Old Man went to back his truck and trailer down the ramp. Tom continued to hold the rope not really knowing what to do. It could have been tied to tree......
The Old Man released the rope and hook from the trailer to attach to the pontoon to pull the pontoon onto the trailer. There it lay..... We then had Old Lady sitting on the pontoon... Tom standing there holding a rope .... the Good Samaritan in his boat, trying to pull the pontoon back into the water to line it up on the trailer....
This is where I realized Tom was not barking orders at me to help him get the pontoon lined up etc...... he was standing there NOT knowing what to do.
I jumped into action and went into the water up to my waist to hook the rope to the pontoon and releasing the one Tom was holding and then guide it over some posts on the trailer ........ The Old Man pulled ahead and the pontoon was loaded........
The reason I am telling this story is to point out how Tom did not know what to do.... if he got in trouble on the trails .... weather he got stuck or broke down.... HE WOULD NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!
I think I will end here.... I think the rest is self explanatory to anyone who still has a full deck...... Tom is missing way to many cards to be out playing any more. And I think he is out of wild cards too.
